Monday, 28 September 2009

Far from family

It never takes much to make me realise how fortunate I am, and how hard others have it in comparison.....

I've been feeling miserable lately about the fact that we won't go to Australia this winter, how we won't get to see family and friends and how once again two years will pass before my kids step foot on Australian soil. It is hard to make the decision to not head down under.

Then yesterday we visited a friend of Makaila's, whose parents come from Irak. The mother in family is heading to the US next week to see her mother, she just found out she has cancer. She will spend a mere two weeks with her.

I asked how long it had been since she had seen her mother and the answer - over four years. Then they all went to visit the grandmother, aunts, uncles and cousins in the US. Those kids probably hardly know who their extended family is on their mother's side.

It doesn't make it any easier for me, I will always feel I am denying my children their family.
But yesterday's little encounter does remind me that I am not the only one. And it does help me appreciate what I have - something that hundreds and thousands, millions of families don't have - an opportunity to be together on a regular basis.

She will be broken-hearted when she leaves her mother's side to return home to her own family. But at least she can visit her mother one last time. Many can't even do that.


  1. Oh boy Nic am I feeling your pain. We lived in Montenegro for 2 and a half years and were fortunate enough to have 2 trips home/year included in our package. Now in Uppsala and though I was blessed to be able to make a trip home with my little guy this past March, it's been well over a year for hubby. We are missing our family back home in Canada dearly and it pains me that our children don't get to have all of their grandparents closeby. It's a daily struggle in that regard really. But you're right. There are certainly others, as you mentioned, that have not seen family in years. Something to be thankful for, especially with Canadian Thanksgiving this weekend.

  2. Thanks Jenn for your comments. I've just been reading your blog, love your writing. Some of your posts are really beautiful!

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